tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5589564.post7217700477767103976..comments2024-03-05T21:22:43.426-05:00Comments on parshablog: Is marrying two sisters intrinsically or extrinsically obnoxious?joshwaxmanhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03516171362038454070noreply@blogger.comBlogger4125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5589564.post-72480526892570105002012-05-07T19:46:43.974-04:002012-05-07T19:46:43.974-04:00When I was 16, my family and I went to meet the Lu...When I was 16, my family and I went to meet the Lubavitcher Rebbe. He knew nothing about us, yet knew to admonish my Father for allowing the man who had slept with me, promising to marry me-to then marry and sleep with my sister. <br />I listened as my father defended my sisters marrying this man. And the Rebbe scolding him because this dishonored me.<br />My father said to him, "This one-" meaning my little sister was the one who was deserving of the marriage. <br />The Rebbe countered, "No, this one-" meaning me, was the one my father should have been protecting.<br />I still cannot stomache quite, living in a country where they can't tell holiness from evil. They really cannot tell. They are Esav, they only know how to pretend here. They would not know holiness if it bit them on the nose.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5589564.post-16063670057338961542012-05-07T06:59:31.961-04:002012-05-07T06:59:31.961-04:00Forget Aruch HaShulchan and R' Yehuda HaChassi...Forget Aruch HaShulchan and R' Yehuda HaChassid. What about the (Ashkenazic) hamon am? They wouldn't consider it incestuous? Maybe I am wrong about 'most circles', but I didn't mean to refer to 'authorities' in my statement.<br /><br />This aside from known medical issues arising from such close unions. I've heard of some refusing to believe the science for various misguided reasons. (See <a href="http://lazerbrody.typepad.com/lazer_beams/2007/07/marrying-a-niec.html" rel="nofollow">here</a> for an example, from the Shatzer Rav and Melitzer Rebbe.) My bracha and best-wishes for them is <i>shomer pesaim Hashem</i>.<br /><br />kt,<br />joshjoshwaxmanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05149022516101476797noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5589564.post-46321782932280954602012-05-07T01:27:17.037-04:002012-05-07T01:27:17.037-04:00The Aruch Hashulchan (E.H. 15?) very strongly enco...The Aruch Hashulchan (E.H. 15?) very strongly encourages marrying a niece, making no mention at all of Rabbi Yehuda Hachasid. I'm not convinced that "most" authorities are on the discouraging side.Lomednoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5589564.post-1429919530084969272012-05-04T07:28:59.423-04:002012-05-04T07:28:59.423-04:00I once thought of an opposite example of this, tha...I once thought of an opposite example of this, that is, that a mitzvah to *marry* someone can apply only in a specific land. This is what I once wrote to someone:<br /><br />המעיין היטיב בדברי ספר חינוך (מצווה ער"ב) יראה שכתב במצוות כה"ג לישא הבתולה בזה"ל ונוהג בארץ בזמן הבית והעבודה כי אז יתמנה כהן גדול לא במקום אחר. ולכאורה מדבריו משמע שרק בארץ ישראל יש מצווה כזאת ואם ייצא הכהן גדול מארץ ישראל לחוץ ישראל מאיזה סיבה שיהיה לא יהא עליו מצווה לישא הבתולה. ומלבד שיש בזה נפ"מ לגבי קיום מצווה זו יש גם נפ"מ לענין האיסור עשה שלא יבעול הכהן גדול את שאינה בתולה דלפ"ז מותר לו לעשות כן בחוץ לארץ. הראיתם דבר מוזר כזה או הנשמע כמוה?<br /><br />But this is only tangentially related.Reuven Chaim Kleinhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05836805247888732019noreply@blogger.com